You are not the woman your pain is trying to convince you that you are.

"If there is no evidence of ra’ah—no real care, no protection, no willingness to carry the weight of others—then it is not what it claims to be. And you are allowed to leave."

Once I saw what color the baseboards were supposed to be, I realized I could not stop there. The revelation hit me that often the dirtiest things in our lives are not obvious.