What we often don’t realize when we’re flailing in the ocean is that God is constantly sending us lifelines, but when we are in a state of panic, we may not be able to see them. The water and danger are real and there are currents and threats to our livelihood at every turn. It is easy to become overwhelmed and hopeless, but there is also God’s loving hand reaching out and trying to pull us from a sea of chaos and torment.

Divorce can feel like a terrible mark on our otherwise clean records, a failure, a rejection. On these low confidence days I look in the mirror and I think, Holy Cow, you’re fat! No wonder you’re single.